I LOVE to read. You can ask my parents. I love to read so much that I was grounded from books. Not television or the phone.
Books.
In fact, I would rather read a book than watch television.
In class I used to put a book on top of my textbook while the teacher was lecturing and read it, but it looked like I was following along in the book.
Most of the time (though I am MUCH better about it now), I get so into books that I literally hear nothing going on around me. Obviously, I had to untrain myself to block out the noise around me when I had a kid, but that is easier said than done.
Much to my delight, my husband bought me a Kindle a few years ago. Did you know there are a TON of free books on Amazon.com and other sites for Kindle users?
JACKPOT!
I could easily go through about a hundred books a month. In fact, this last week alone I have read about 2 books or so a day.
They are my junk food, my television, and I would even go so far as to call it my vice.
The books I read are purely entertainment, and have no value.
Really.
I call them popcorn books: they are yummy, but they have no real substance or nutritional value.
When I first got my Kindle, coming across erotica was not very common. Usually, I could download all the free books I wanted without too much concern for what kind of content was inside them.
Typically, I could tell by the cover of the book I was downloading if it was questionable anyway.
Yes! I DO judge a book by its cover!
Well...I did.
Until recently.
The book that changed it all is that 50 Shades of Grey book. I have not read it, nor do I want to. I despise that kind of book just as much as I despise porn. It is degrading and disgusting, not to mention incredibly damaging.
Ever since this book came out, it seems that graphic sex scenes have become not only accepted, but the norm in books. Generally, I can tell within the first few pages of the book if it is going to have these scenes, and I can delete it. However, sometimes it takes me by surprise. The cover no longer implies that there are graphic sex scenes, and neither does a majority of the descriptions. I have even come across YA books that have inappropriate scenes in them.
I think books need to have a rating system.
I have resigned myself to the fact that I will read every book Emma wants to read before she is allowed to read it. Okay, maybe resigned is the wrong word, because I would probably do it anyway. My husband said to me, "At least you read fast, so she won't have to wait too long to read them!"
So, this girl porn. That's what I call these books. They suck you in before you know it. To be honest, I know this from experience, and I believe that they are just as damaging as visual porn.
Sex is a beautiful gift God has created for the purpose of married couples. Not only is it a gift, it acts as a way of strengthening the bond between a man and wife. Porn, girl porn or otherwise, brings other "people" or things into that intimate relationship whether you realize it or not. Sex should be between a man, a woman, and God. Nothing and no one should ever be included in that experience.
These books have a way of getting into our minds, and giving expectations of the way life "should" be. The way sex "should" be. Just like romance books give us unrealistic expectations of what a man should be (again, whether we realize it or not, this happens!). Books are fiction. They create ideals and fantasy worlds, and in no way reflect the real world.
In this world where porn in any form is becoming more and more accepted, we need to become more and more protective of our marriages. We need to guard each other, and our hearts against satan's attack on marriage.
This mindset that if this marriage doesn't work out, I'll just get a divorce and try again has pervaded our lives through the media and books. The thought that it is okay to just look (or read) and even fantasize, as long as I am not really doing it has got to stop.
Matthew 5:28 says that lusting after someone in your heart is the same thing as committing the act.
Reading girl porn, I believe, is no different than committing adultery. It engages your mind and your body the same way visual porn does for men.
Books.
In fact, I would rather read a book than watch television.
In class I used to put a book on top of my textbook while the teacher was lecturing and read it, but it looked like I was following along in the book.
Most of the time (though I am MUCH better about it now), I get so into books that I literally hear nothing going on around me. Obviously, I had to untrain myself to block out the noise around me when I had a kid, but that is easier said than done.
Much to my delight, my husband bought me a Kindle a few years ago. Did you know there are a TON of free books on Amazon.com and other sites for Kindle users?
JACKPOT!
I could easily go through about a hundred books a month. In fact, this last week alone I have read about 2 books or so a day.
They are my junk food, my television, and I would even go so far as to call it my vice.
The books I read are purely entertainment, and have no value.
Really.
I call them popcorn books: they are yummy, but they have no real substance or nutritional value.
When I first got my Kindle, coming across erotica was not very common. Usually, I could download all the free books I wanted without too much concern for what kind of content was inside them.
Typically, I could tell by the cover of the book I was downloading if it was questionable anyway.
Yes! I DO judge a book by its cover!
Well...I did.
Until recently.
The book that changed it all is that 50 Shades of Grey book. I have not read it, nor do I want to. I despise that kind of book just as much as I despise porn. It is degrading and disgusting, not to mention incredibly damaging.
Ever since this book came out, it seems that graphic sex scenes have become not only accepted, but the norm in books. Generally, I can tell within the first few pages of the book if it is going to have these scenes, and I can delete it. However, sometimes it takes me by surprise. The cover no longer implies that there are graphic sex scenes, and neither does a majority of the descriptions. I have even come across YA books that have inappropriate scenes in them.
I think books need to have a rating system.
I have resigned myself to the fact that I will read every book Emma wants to read before she is allowed to read it. Okay, maybe resigned is the wrong word, because I would probably do it anyway. My husband said to me, "At least you read fast, so she won't have to wait too long to read them!"
So, this girl porn. That's what I call these books. They suck you in before you know it. To be honest, I know this from experience, and I believe that they are just as damaging as visual porn.
Sex is a beautiful gift God has created for the purpose of married couples. Not only is it a gift, it acts as a way of strengthening the bond between a man and wife. Porn, girl porn or otherwise, brings other "people" or things into that intimate relationship whether you realize it or not. Sex should be between a man, a woman, and God. Nothing and no one should ever be included in that experience.
These books have a way of getting into our minds, and giving expectations of the way life "should" be. The way sex "should" be. Just like romance books give us unrealistic expectations of what a man should be (again, whether we realize it or not, this happens!). Books are fiction. They create ideals and fantasy worlds, and in no way reflect the real world.
In this world where porn in any form is becoming more and more accepted, we need to become more and more protective of our marriages. We need to guard each other, and our hearts against satan's attack on marriage.
This mindset that if this marriage doesn't work out, I'll just get a divorce and try again has pervaded our lives through the media and books. The thought that it is okay to just look (or read) and even fantasize, as long as I am not really doing it has got to stop.
Matthew 5:28 says that lusting after someone in your heart is the same thing as committing the act.
Reading girl porn, I believe, is no different than committing adultery. It engages your mind and your body the same way visual porn does for men.
